“Do it yourself” (DIY) Guide

Research shows that 95% of brides plan their own wedding instead of hiring a planner to do it for them.  It’s not just budget constraints that make you want to plan your own wedding.  Your wedding is the one day if finally is…all about you.  The problem is there’s a lot to know about planning a wedding and with so much information on the internet it can be overwhelming.  Here is a list of basics on how to do it yourself.

Be organized.  One of the biggest mistakes I hear that bride’s make is they leave too much to the last minute.  Start with a binder with lots of sheet protectors to store ideas/receipts/contracts and lined paper to make notes.

Do your research.  Ask questions and listen to family, friends, and experts.  Thank them for the ideas and then do what you ultimately want.  You never know where that great and unique idea will come from.

Rally resources.  You probably have plenty of people around that are willing and able to help…if you let them.  Make a list of what talents people around you have and resources they may be able to provide. 

Delegate.  There are a lot of details to take care of when planning your own wedding.  Don’t make one person do everything, no matter how talented they are.  Break the duties down into manageable tasks that people can succeed at and not feel overwhelmed.  Choose people that are reliable and if they’re not, give them a task that isn’t crucial and have a backup plan.

Be flexible.  Make your wedding memorable and meaningful by doing what you want, but be willing to compromise too. To protect the energy of the day, manage the gap between expectation and reality.  Getting what you want shouldn’t be at the expense of relationships.  Remember that people don’t always remember what they hear, do, see and say, but they will remember how they felt.  

Coordinate. You spend generally a year planning your own wedding, but you can’t make those plans happen on your wedding day as you will be busy getting married.  Your mother shouldn’t either.  Some venues include the services of an on-site coordinator.  Find someone you trust that can make decisions under pressure and can direct people discreetly and diplomatically.  This person should not be part of the wedding party and should be able to commit a significant amount of time going over your plans with you.  You don’t want to be bothered with problems during your wedding.  It’s far better to have one person that all wedding participants and vendors can turn to for decisions as they are required that is completely in tune with your vision of your day.  That way you can relax and enjoy the fruits of your labours.